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Get BJ advice from 3 gay men

OMG this is the BEST video EVERRRRRRRRR.

You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you’ll learn to how to CRUSH it at blow jobs.

I wanted to teach you some of the best blow job tips out there with a panel of experts…

And who knows better than someone who both gives and receives?

So I spoke with three (exceptionally amazing and hilarious) gay men about what to do…

And what to absolutely NEVER DO when going down on a man.

Things got a little crazy…there were some heated debates and disagreements…

But in the end…we all agreed on this one thing…

Happy New Year!!! To your best sex ever!

Get ready to laugh your head off AND get some amazing advice.

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This happened when they gave themselves permission

About a month ago, I challenged you to spend a day giving yourselves full permission to do anything you desired…

and to record it.

Lots of you sent in INCREDIBLE videos detailing your experiences!

I noticed all of you gave yourselves permission to:

– Take time for yourself
– Eat whatever you wanted
– Move at your own pace

And, of course, because this is our community, you also gave yourselves full permission to:

– Buy sexy underwear
– Take a bubble bath instead of a shower
– Be silly in public

My team and I compiled some of the best clips into the video below

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Are they talking about orgasm or meditation?

Can you guess whether the people in the video below are talking about climax…

or a deep state of meditation?

(Yes, these are my two favorite things in the whole world besides organic cheese)

This week, I asked a bunch of random strangers to come over to my living room…

With no script…

And I asked them to describe their deepest sexual experiences…

And then their deepest meditation experiences.

In this video, I’m challenging you to guess…which one are they talking about?

I can guarantee, you’ll likely have your mind blown trying to get it right. Enjoy!!

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We almost broke up before I learned this

I have spent a lot of time feeling underwhelmed by the men in my life.

In my relationships and dating, I’ve often felt like I was sitting around waiting for him to commit, waiting for him to grow up, waiting for him to evolve sexually, spiritually, emotionally…

Waiting for him to meet me in the way that I desire…

While I sat around on my high horse…perfect…and waiting.

Can you relate?

And every time he didn’t please me, meet me, show up for me…

I got more and more bitter and angry and then crushed him in subtle and not-so-subtle ways.

(Augghhhh! I’m saying it! It’s true! It’s so embarrassing!)

This behaviour destroyed many of my relationships, and it damn near destroyed my relationship with Andrew…

Until I learned how to be an Initiatress.

What I discovered from observing my own life…and so many lives of women around me…

Is that most of us are sitting around waiting for the men to show up, waiting for the men to be fully conscious, waiting for the men to practice tantra (finally, jeez…)…

And I was like, Why the hell are we sitting around waiting?

To me, it is a deep, deep conditioning that men ‘need to lead’.

But what if that’s not how it’s supposed to be?

What if women were always supposed to lead in sex and love and consciousness?

At least…what if we’re meant to initiate…

And once we’ve opened the door…and seduced him into it…and initiated him…

Then he initiates you…

And then you initiate him…

And suddenly, you’re on the cycle you so crave to be on together….

What if this was what you were waiting for all along?

But it takes you and me saying, “Wait a minute…maybe I’m not supposed to sit around and wait for a man to do all these things….”

“What if I used my truth, my energy, my wisdom, my sparkle to inspire him into these higher places?”

That’s an Initiatress.

(Oh, and if he doesn’t respond? Then maybe he’s not your guy. But if you never step into your role as Initiatress, you’ll never know the full potential of your relationship.)

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How to heal sexual pain naturally

{Warning! This email contains sensitive topics so you may want to read this email in a space where you can relax and take care of yourself!}

When I was 23 years old, I finally went to therapy for abuse I had experienced as a child.

I discovered a whole bunch of things…like how numb I was in my whole body and how I lived in a constant state of terror inside.

As I unpacked the most uncomfortable feelings…

I also started to feel a lot of sexual pain for the first time in my life.

I had this burning inside of my vagina that felt so painful it was hard to do anything.

My period cramps became excruciatingly painful.

I always knew that there was a link between the emotions of sex and sexual pain or sexual issues.

It makes sense…if you are afraid, or disgusted, or feel negative about sexuality or your body…

you’ll unconsciously clamp up inside.

Just like you curl into a little ball when you’re afraid…I see it like your vagina or womb or pelvic floor curls into a little ball to hide.

And that tension leads to pain and stagnant energy…

which leads to sexual health issues.

It’s been scientifically shown that women who feel more disgust experience more pain during sex.

I think it goes much deeper than that…the way we feel about our sexuality and our bodies…

affects our whole sexual system.

Negative emotions around sexuality can lead to period cramps, vulvodynia, and even sexual health issues like endometriosis or fibroids.

While I respect Western medicine and always recommend checking in with a doctor and making the best possible decision for yourself…

I also think that sex negativity and violence in our culture is most definitely affecting our sexual health as women.

And this is important because if you don’t know this, you might think you’re broken.

You’re not broken.

You just live in a sex-negative society and your body can internalize that.

So, this video is about acknowledging that….and then seeing how you can start to heal.

Let’s remove the sex negativity inside and out…

and let’s let our pelvic floors, wombs, and vaginas stop having to curl into little balls to protect themselves…

and start expanding into pleasure, joy, celebration, and thriving.

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