Posted on May 2, 2019
When I was 21 years old in college, I still had never had an orgasm.
I grew up Catholic, had experienced childhood sexual abuse, and hated my body…so the odds were pretty stacked against me when it came to experiencing a mind-blowing orgasm….
My friends would describe their experiences of blissful pleasure and I’d be half-jealous and half-bitter (the best combination if you want to feel terrible about yourself and others!!)….
Then I started dating this guy who had already graduated and had his own tutoring company and smoked a lot of pot and drove me around on his motorcycle in the Palo Alto hills.
He wasn’t like, an incredible lover or anything, but he looked me in the eyes.
Like, deeply in the eyes while touching me and making love.
At first I was shy, then a bit freaked out, then a little nauseous…until I thought, “Why the hell am I so scared to look at him when he is actually literally inside of me?”
So one afternoon, I got up the courage to look straight back at him as he touched me.
And as I connected with him, I felt his love. I felt his soul. I felt his humanity connecting with mine…
And all of a sudden an orgasm rushed through me!!!
We weren’t in our own worlds doing our own things…we were two soft human beings on the most intimate journey two people can take…together.
That’s the power of eye-gazing.
I always say my deepest desire is to be at one with my love at the height of our pleasure…and the key way we do that is through our eyes.
If you don’t ever do eye-gazing, you can live in your own separate worlds no matter how connected you make your bodies….Keep Reading →
Posted on April 25, 2019
When Andrew got really excited about giving me 7 pussy massages in a row to see what happened…
I sighed and was like, “Okay, but only for the benefit of the world.”
JUST KIDDING…I cried with joy.
And then immediately became resistant.
Anyways…we did it!!!
(I seriously only fell asleep ONCE during the massages. So #champion.)
Watch all the mind-blowing things we experienced in the video below
We captured before and after moments from each massage on camera…
and WOW…some were profoundly deep and some were just downright hilarious.
There was healing, ecstasy, laughter, tears, (sleep) and everything in-between!
And we share it all raw and openly with you below.
Posted on April 11, 2019
Today I want to talk to you about something that your lover might be doing that they think is helpful…
But actually isn’t.
Have you ever had a lover say, “I really want to give you an orgasm”?
It seems so kind, so helpful, so wonderful…
But it’s actually SO MUCH PRESSURE.
And pressure actually makes orgasm way less likely to happen.
It puts a goal on the situation and that takes you out of the moment.
Besides, you know what’s way better than a climax*?
(*No, it’s definitely NOT a gluten-free maple-sweetened cupcake.)
It’s being in a multiorgasmic state!
When a woman gets pressured to have an orgasm, she’ll likely either just shut down, fake it, or have a short climax.
But when she’s supported in her full pleasure, she can enter what’s called a “multiorgasmic state.” It’s like an orgasmic experience that goes on and on and on in a super beautiful, really deep way.
If you’re a woman, then this video will help you understand how to not put pressure on yourself and how to talk to your lover about not pressuring you – so you really can sit back, relax, and fully enjoy the ride.
And if you make love with women, then this video will show you how to support her to unlock a much, much deeper experience of ecstasy and pleasure that most people don’t talk about.Keep Reading →
Posted on April 4, 2019
Something that has absolutely defined my life is to dive as deeply as possible into sacred sexuality….
Sex magic, somatic sexuality, mystical sexuality, ritual sexuality, tantric sexuality, neo-tantric sexuality…if there is some hint that there is a combination of spirituality and sexuality…I have tried it, tried it for years or have it on my list to try ASAP.
And honestly, the deeper, more intense, more challenging, more strange the whole experience is the more COMMITTED and DOWN I am.
(Can you relate?!? ;))
So, when I heard that my favorite Tantra teacher, Ma Ananda Sarita had a FOUR YEAR soulmate training for couples I was like OH. HELL. YES.
And I dragged Andrew to Greece (where it was happening) for two years (he enjoyed it immensely and also we both had a lot going on where it didn’t make a ton of sense for us to be in Europe that much)…
And we just dove in.
One of the rituals we did required one of us to take the lead…and indulge all of our desires the whole night long….
And the next night, we switched.
And, yes, when it was my turn, we totally ended up meditating on death in a Greek graveyard.
I’d always had a fantasy about me and Andrew really facing the reality of death together and what that could do for our relationship, so as soon as I got the chance, I had us sit in silence as the grave candles flickered at midnight…then we went back to our hotel and made love in a really spectacular way I’ll share with you.
Anyways, it was super beautiful, it made us fall more in love…and to me, is super inspiring about how a couple that grows together (and adventures together!) stays together…
Also, we totally now have to finish the last two years.
This business just got so busy that it became nearly impossible for me to take that time off…but I’m committed to us finishing!!
I also want you to know that with my sharing, I always hope to inspire you, but never to make you feel “not enough.”
We all have our different paths, different desires, different approaches…I’ve always been intense and adventurous, but however you roll and explore is deeply deeply beautiful as well.
I hope you feel that and we can connect from wherever we are at through time and space…and that our experiences and adventures inspire us to grow!Keep Reading →
Posted on March 29, 2019
Last week I did a really intensive one-week retreat, The Hoffman Process, where I released all the negative patterns I got from my mom, dad and stepfather growing up (suuuuper intense and also super healing!!)…
One cool thing about the retreat is that you couldn’t tell anyone what you did for work so I got to be (mostly) anonymous…
During one exercise, my facilitator asked me what I did to experience gratitude in my life and I said, “Sex magic…I practice sex magic in my backyard temple!!!”
Needless to say, all anyone wanted to talk to me about for the rest of the week was sex magic.
Moms from Chicago, tech entrepreneurs from San Francisco, construction engineers from Canada…EVERYONE wanted to know how to do sex magic.
Which is awesome because sex magic is better than…well, non-tantric sex…drugs, rock’n’roll, gluten-free macaroni and cheese and winning the lottery…I promise you…sex magic is better than all of those things.
I made this week’s video with my friends to talk about how sex magic has changed our lives and our experiences of sex (and also share more about the actual practice….)
It’s the most magical, incredible and beautiful practice and I am beyond thrilled that the word is getting out and everyone is starting to get down with sex magic.Keep Reading →