Posted on July 19, 2018
I would say that in my early 20’s I was consumed by the following activities:
18% worrying about how I would pay for rent and food
10% worrying if my boyfriend was going to leave me
22% worrying if I was attractive enough
5% learning to meditate and do tantra
31% being jealous of and comparing myself to other women
5% making money
Youth is wasted on the young, right? 😂😂😂
If I’d just taken half of that energy I put into being jealous and comparing myself…
Into meditation, tantra and making money…
I’d be the second enlightened female billionaire!!
But since I didn’t make that choice, as a really meagre consolation prize for myself…
I’ve got a TON of great insights for you on how to overcome jealousy and comparison with other women…
(because I eventually did overcome that habit…)
So you can put that energy somewhere amazing instead.
Posted on July 5, 2018
In 2017 I experienced the excruciating shame of not being able to remember the last time that Andrew and I had had sex.
There are literally not enough “red-faced” emojis in the world to convey the deep, deep shame that I felt in that realization.
Now, I want to give you a bunch of excuses. I was taking care of my dad in hospice. I was working 60 hours a week because my business was exploding.
Andrew and I were going through a hard time together personally and professionally and we were exhausted.
And all that’s true…but what’s even truer is that Andrew and I are a normal couple.
We’ve been together five years.
We value our sexuality, we love each other deeply, we practice tantra…and you know what?
Like any long-term couple, the amount of sex we have and the attraction we feel for each other goes up and down.
When we have less sex, I get to feel all the shame and doubt normal people feel…
Maybe this is the end!!! Maybe we’ve lost our attraction forever.
Ug, how can it feel this hard…remember when we first met and it was so easy?!?
I bet all of my other friends in amazing relationships are having way more sex than us. I bet they’re having it right now. I bet it’s freaking epic.
And I also have the special benefit of professional shame…
This is your CAREER. You know all of the tools in the WORLD. If you can’t do it, then WHO CAN?
If you don’t have hot sex every day, you are a FRAUD!!!
So, while I’m here to tell you that every couple goes through low sex periods and it’s totally normal and there is nothing to be ashamed about…
I also want to share with you that there are things you can do about it.
Because every time Andrew and I have gone down a rabbit hole of losing our sexual connection and magic.
We have come out on the other side..and the cool thing is…even stronger than ever.
Andrew is my soulmate and life partner.
And when we move through a period of low sex, we almost always have to work through fears of intimacy, sexual blockages and conditioning and many, many other things.
Low sex isn’t some horrible nightmare…it’s actually an invitation to work deeply on our relationship.
We’ve done it every time…it’s not always fun, but it’s always, always worth it.
And we come out on the other end even more sexually connected and vibrant than ever.
I can’t, as a sexuality teacher, promise you that a long-term relationship is a walk in the park and that the tools I will share with you will magically fix everything.
What I can tell you is that every time I’ve used tantra and my own holistic sex tools to address our sexuality…
We grow deeper and more connected.
There is something hot and amazing about a new, sparkly mysterious person.
But let me tell you…there is absolutely nothing like having incredible, soul-baring, life-changing sex with the person you love more than anything in the world.
I find it’s a challenge, but when you, as a couple, rise to meet the challenge…the rewards are magnificently worth it.
I’m here to show you what’s worked for us and what I believe every couple should know to keep their sex life and attraction alive over the years.
Posted on June 27, 2018
I often wish I could crawl through your computer
and make you a nice cup of tea…
and talk to you about prostate massage face-to-face.
(I know that could sound extremely creepy, so please stay with me for a moment longer before you unsubscribe and never come back )
What I mean is, sometimes I’m making you these videos and writing these emails…
but they can’t really get to the truth of what I’m trying to say.
Because prostate massage can absolutely change a man’s life.
The first time I gave one to a boyfriend, he wept tears of joy.
We were in Bangkok in a tiny little shack of a room.
He was going to fly back to the US and really wanted to try it…
And I was feeling extremely experimental.
But he was so touched by the experience that his heart melted open and we fell even more deeply in love.
Prostate massage works with a man’s “g-spot.”
It can produce a deeper experience of surrender and pleasure than he’s ever known.
And if you want to try something different, spectacular and fresh with a guy…
This is it!
Follow this step by step guidance and experience some cosmic things together.
Posted on June 21, 2018
Laylas BF Andrew here,
Growing up in Australia in a fairly conservative society…
I was never taught anything about my own sexual pleasure
I didn’t even find out about masturbation until my teen years.
And only by chance when one of my school friends told me how to do it at a school camp.
I was like WOW how did I not know about this before.
I feel the same way about the orgasm without ejaculation practice…
which I’m now only discovering in my 40’s…crazy!
It’s like this hidden gem of knowledge that most men have never even heard of.
Not only has it opened up a whole new world of pleasure for me…
where I now find regular orgasms a bit of a letdown.
But it has also allowed me to last sooooooooo much longer in bed with Layla.
Which has pretty obvious benefits for her ;)
And what’s really interesting is that I haven’t even fully mastered the orgasm without ejaculation technique itself yet.
Just starting the process and practising a few of the techniques that we share in the video below
will completely change how both you and your partner experience sex.
In this video we not only talk about the technique itself but how it has fundamentally changed our sexual relationship.
And ladies, please forward this on to the men in your lives as we all need this knowledge.
Plus the more men that know about this…the more epic pleasure you’ll be having in bed too ;)
Posted on June 14, 2018
There is an exquisite, undeniable beauty in your body.
I’ve just spent a month in the jungle working with the women in my one-year program…
And I’m still in humbled awe at what is possible.
How each woman carries a wellspring of magic and joy within her.
One thing I LOVE is female ejaculation (aka gushing or squirting orgasms).
Because they combine the deep surrender of release with the awesome empowerment of pleasure.
Understanding female ejaculation is super important if you want to learn how to do it.
But also because an estimated 60% of women are stopping their full orgasm during sex…
because they would normally ejaculate and are ashamed or afraid, so they shut down their natural response.
Celebrating, encouraging and empowering this amazing part of a woman’s sexuality is so key…
So I’ve made you a beautiful video (in a hot pink wizard robe) to show you exactly how to do that.
Also *a fun mystical fact* in Tantra, female ejaculate is called “amrita” aka “nectar of the gods.”
I’ve always enjoyed the idea that somewhere on this planet…
an enlightened female master shot her amrita into the face of her devoted male lover and he so became enlightened.
Because the universe is both laughing with us and loving us so hard.
Discover the 9 steps to exquisite gushing orgasms below