There is a lot of talk of pussy power these days.
(Hallelujah!! OMG just saying that makes me so grateful to be alive!!)
But what does that really look like?
I’ve been touched that two luminaries,
Dr. Christiane Northrup and Mama Gena…
have both recommended me in their recent New York Times bestselling books as a “go-to” teacher for women.
One of the reasons is because I give detailed practices…
I don’t just inspire with philosophy.
I show you step-by-step how to get there.
So in this week’s video, I’m sharing with you 7 practical steps…
to get to total sexual confidence with your pussy!
When I hear about women doing plastic surgery on their vulvas it makes me horrified and sad.
Now, if you want to get plastic surgery or alter your look – I say – do whatever makes you feel good.
But I know this recent movement to alter “down-there” comes from a massive lie…
That there is always something wrong with a woman’s vagina.
She doesn’t look right, she doesn’t smell right, she doesn’t function right, she’s a medical disaster waiting to happen.
Well, I say F…! that.
The way we treat pussy is how we treat women.
And the way a woman treats her vagina is a mirror for how she treats herself.
So, if you want to feel fully personally empowered and confident – start down there.
And if you’re a guy, support your lover to celebrate herself down there.
I’m in love with this video I’m about to share with you …
Watching it will make you want to celebrate being a woman (or being with one)!
And you’ll learn 7 crucial steps to having total confidence down there.
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Transcript:
Pussy Power – 7 Steps to Total Pussy Confidence
So when I was 21, I had just moved to Berkeley and I was going through my liberation, female empowerment phase. And I had this bold moment where I was like, I’m gonna photograph my pussy.
So I remember lying in my communal house, in the living room and just like taking these photos and being so excited because I’d never actually really looked at her and I uploaded them onto the computer.
And I felt so horrified. I had had this boil on the left side that had popped and it had left this crater and the hair just looked all crazy. And I just cried and cried. It was so shocking to me, how much shame I had, especially when I thought that I would be excited.
So I was undeterred. I was like, I am going to love and appreciate this part of me. And I got to the point where I could finally look in the mirror and be like, oh my God, she’s a flower.
When you have confidence in your pussy, you have confidence in yourself. When you find your pussy beautiful, you find yourself beautiful. When you follow the steps that I’m gonna share with you in this video, it actually changes the way that you relate to your femininity to yourself as a woman.
So step one is that you like her appearance. We almost never get shown a variety of pussies of vulvas as little girls and the look can feel shocking. We also have this BS movement now that’s like, all pussies should look the same, which is crazy.
If you told all women that all faces should look the same, it would be racist. It would be fucked up. Pussies are just as unique as women themselves. And every iteration. I have one really long inner labia and one really short one. And that’s amazing. It’s unique. It’s beautiful.
Number two, you give her a voice and you stand up for her. If you don’t speak up for her, put up strong boundaries, say yes or no, and guide your lover to treat her with the most amazing strokes and love and techniques that she absolutely adores. She starts to shut down inside and not feel so good over time.
Number three, you know what she’s capable of. So obviously pussy is capable of some pretty mind blowing things like birthing a baby, like creating amazing orgasmic states. She powers a kind of energy, a vitality, a living pulse inside of you.
When you are really connected to her, that can light up your entire life, your skin, make you magnetic, make you radiant. And she’s incredibly, incredibly wise. Learn to listen to pussy’s pulsations and wisdom, and your life will definitely benefit.
Number four, you know how to care for her. So there’s this huge industry out there trying to convince us that there’s something wrong with our pussies and we need to use chemicals or soaps or dyes or whatever inside of her. And you absolutely do not.
She has a self sustaining ecosystem. She knows what’s good for her. Most of the time you wanna leave her alone. So you want to just wash her with water. That’s all she needs to stay healthy and vibrant.
If she is off, bacterial infections, yeast infections, anything like that, it has to do with either diet. So you wanna cut out sugar. You want to eat really healthy, or you wanna tap into underlying emotional issues or traumas.
I can’t tell you how many women have ended up resolving long term UTIs through actually healing sexual trauma, sexual negativity, negative feelings about their pussies. It’s pretty amazing.
Number five, you really listen to her. So she has a yes. And she has a no, and she has a, maybe we gotta talk this out kind of thing. So when you don’t listen to her no, over time, you end up disconnecting from your ability to hear her at all.
And a pussy who can’t have a true no can never have a true yes. So if you’re someone who feels like you’re not really that excited about sex or you’ve lost feelings for your long term partner, sometimes it’s because you didn’t honor her no.
So really tapping into what she feels and staying committed to saying I will listen to your yes, I will listen to your no, I will listen to your maybe and I will honor all three.
Number six, you fully accept her moods. So pussy is just like you. Sometimes she has an amazing day and she’s feeling so bright and sparkly. Sometimes she’s feeling a bit more sad. She’s a bit more down. She’s a bit more low energy.
What I see over and over again is that women have been taught that pussy always needs to get turned on at the right time. She needs to be excited about sex. She needs to be really full of passion and desire. And that’s absolute BS.
And part of having pussy confidence is letting her know over and over again it’s totally okay, whatever you wanna experience, whatever you wanna feel, I’m gonna show up. And I’m going to completely honor that.
As women, we owe it to ourselves to let go of this outdated belief system that we are somehow sexually perfect objects or else we’re broken.
Number seven, you never stop playing and exploring with her. So having a conscious self-pleasure practice, where you get curious, where you try new moves, where you try out the Jade egg, where you work with full body orgasm, where you do breath work, where you sound from her…there are so many ways to stay creative, curious, and involved with pussy.
The more time that you spend, the more you explore, the more you stay curious, the more you develop this level of mastery and she gets to really become vibrant and expressive and dynamic the more that you commit to her.
You can do that with any one of my online courses. There’s also this awesome site called OMGYES where you can see lots of different women talking about how they play with their pussy, what turns them on, to give you some awesome creative ideas.
And I just wanna say that this isn’t to make you feel shame if you don’t do these seven steps, or if you’re challenged in actually creating this relationship to your pussy because the reason that we don’t do these things naturally is not only were we not taught to do them but we’ve undergone thousands of years of sexual repression, shaming shutdown.
And so when you say yes to even one of these seven steps, you are saying yes to a new reality, to a new future. So if you wanna stay connected, consider subscribing, and you can also check out my book that lays out a lot of really empowering steps to start to develop pussy confidence today, it’s called, Wild Woman in the Bedroom. You can get it for free by clicking the link down below
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